ANXIETY: AN INVISIBLE MONSTER

/ August 02, 2021


In this highly competitive and challenging era, everyone is in a race. Acing grades, careers, financial stability, and keeping a firm hold on relations, and so on. Consequently, one gets hooked to the web of anxiety. Anxiety is not confined to age or gender. 

Anxiety can arise in various aspects. Peer pressure can be in age, as early as teenage. Later, comparison becomes part of life. From analyzing the number of likes on followers on social media to the number of properties snatches our vision of rejoicing a simple life. Over-apprehension kills happiness deepens your despair.

There's nothing more regrettable than a negative suspected circle. Underhanded considerations plague your psyche with self-question, most pessimistic scenario situations, and all that might turn out badly later. "I'm not sufficient" is something you've most likely said to yourself a couple of times. Despite needing to carry on with a cheerful life, your inclination for overthinking keeps that from turning into a reality. If sounds recognizable, you're in the same state. It happens to everybody.


 

Anxiety
Anxiety

How does it feel?

 

Anxiety is a destructive trait that builds a deep void of pensiveness inside us. It is an emotion, too exhausting to understand its origin as well as function. It further leads you to other venomous emotions such as comparison and jealousy. Why does is it keep on troubling you? The answer to this question helps you identify underlying insecurity that has nothing to do with the person you are anxious about. You will be envious of anyone who might have achieved more than you; be it your friend or even a sibling. Although you feel delighted to their achievement. But deep inside, you become scared of the unwanted thought that are you incapable? Why haven't you accomplished your wish list? You start to question your worth. It evokes in a way that destroys a relation. The urgency of being an achiever inculcates fear of being extraordinary. The fear of being ordinary leads one on the verge of depression.

 

Sorrow feels like something is sucking your spirit away from you. It's anything but a modern strength vacuum that is connected to your mind pulling out all that you care about and supplanting it's anything but a foul residue. Wretchedness eliminates care from your spirit. You may love art, films, books, games, photography, the mountains, and numerous different things. Discouragement eliminates everything and transforms it's anything but a disposed of piece of futile plastic. You essentially couldn't care less.

 

Consequences

 

 It is a matter of fact that everyone undergoes battles. Some of them are being discussed, few are disguised. Sadness takes your loved ones and cares an extraordinary arrangement about — a life partner, your kids, guardians, kin, family members, companions, friends and family, family, online social companions, colleagues, individuals you see at the store — and transforms them all into indistinguishable far-off phantoms. Individuals become like postage stamps or planes taking off overhead. Or on the other hand like insects far underneath. In this race of grasping achievements, we get so caught up and somehow lose sight of what is important. We built these beautiful lifelong connections with kins and friends. But then life hits us and we forget to reach out, forget to call, text, go to their place to just say hi. The connections that we built so zealously are being ignored. I always have a hard time taking out time for people apart from the ones I see daily. I get caught up in life and somehow lose sight of what is important. We forget. It's only human. We need to start making time for the people that matter, the people that may not be near to you by distance but are by heart. Whose prayers and love will always be with you. Continue building those bonds and never stop. If they put a smile on your face and make you happy trust me they are worth investing your time in them.

 

Being a planner is also a cause of anxiety. Since one wants to master all aspects of life which cannot happen overnight. Nothing happens overnight. Time brings everything together. You need to process it. We need to normalize FAILURES. Of course, no one wants to fail but if one has a setback then it is not the end of the world. It is also okay to find beauty in imperfection. Sometimes, things may not turn out the way we anticipated. In that process, don't be hard on yourselves Overthinking does not solve problems. Rather it takes away the energy to solve a problem. Believe in the timing of the ultimate planner (harder than it sounds, I know but possible).

 

Enlightening Insights

 

Develop self-love. Interface with your sentiments totally and don't drive them away, similar to a caring mother, work yourself out of it. Pour in some affection. Self-esteem kicks out envy and nervousness. Feel the deficiency of things. Here and there it's magnificent and unique and difficult and astounding to have things insufficiently. Cheer in the weaknesses. Say Alhamdulillah and more will come. Rundown down all you must be thankful for. You need to continue to remind yourself to value what you have and quit looking at yourself with others scholarly regular. It's constant exercise but one that will keep you happy in every circumstance. Rehearsing appreciation and being grateful for how things showed up for you helps push the inclination done for. Recollect your qualities. Let free the reins of control, leave things to destiny.

 

Everybody has an aim in life and desired goals. Learning the art of support and empathy will help you get over anxiety and jealousy. Count your blessings. Consider happiness the biggest achievement of life. Find beauty in the mundane routine of life, be it a clear sky or a delicious dinner cooked by mom or watching Netflix. Enjoy the joy of little things. One day you may look back and realize those were the things that mattered. One day you’ll be much empowered and stable, don’t let anxiety conquer the beauty inside you. We still have plenty of time. It's never too late to begin a new venture. Remember we all are here to play our part in our unique ways. I hope we all make it. 







In this highly competitive and challenging era, everyone is in a race. Acing grades, careers, financial stability, and keeping a firm hold on relations, and so on. Consequently, one gets hooked to the web of anxiety. Anxiety is not confined to age or gender. 

Anxiety can arise in various aspects. Peer pressure can be in age, as early as teenage. Later, comparison becomes part of life. From analyzing the number of likes on followers on social media to the number of properties snatches our vision of rejoicing a simple life. Over-apprehension kills happiness deepens your despair.

There's nothing more regrettable than a negative suspected circle. Underhanded considerations plague your psyche with self-question, most pessimistic scenario situations, and all that might turn out badly later. "I'm not sufficient" is something you've most likely said to yourself a couple of times. Despite needing to carry on with a cheerful life, your inclination for overthinking keeps that from turning into a reality. If sounds recognizable, you're in the same state. It happens to everybody.


 

Anxiety
Anxiety

How does it feel?

 

Anxiety is a destructive trait that builds a deep void of pensiveness inside us. It is an emotion, too exhausting to understand its origin as well as function. It further leads you to other venomous emotions such as comparison and jealousy. Why does is it keep on troubling you? The answer to this question helps you identify underlying insecurity that has nothing to do with the person you are anxious about. You will be envious of anyone who might have achieved more than you; be it your friend or even a sibling. Although you feel delighted to their achievement. But deep inside, you become scared of the unwanted thought that are you incapable? Why haven't you accomplished your wish list? You start to question your worth. It evokes in a way that destroys a relation. The urgency of being an achiever inculcates fear of being extraordinary. The fear of being ordinary leads one on the verge of depression.

 

Sorrow feels like something is sucking your spirit away from you. It's anything but a modern strength vacuum that is connected to your mind pulling out all that you care about and supplanting it's anything but a foul residue. Wretchedness eliminates care from your spirit. You may love art, films, books, games, photography, the mountains, and numerous different things. Discouragement eliminates everything and transforms it's anything but a disposed of piece of futile plastic. You essentially couldn't care less.

 

Consequences

 

 It is a matter of fact that everyone undergoes battles. Some of them are being discussed, few are disguised. Sadness takes your loved ones and cares an extraordinary arrangement about — a life partner, your kids, guardians, kin, family members, companions, friends and family, family, online social companions, colleagues, individuals you see at the store — and transforms them all into indistinguishable far-off phantoms. Individuals become like postage stamps or planes taking off overhead. Or on the other hand like insects far underneath. In this race of grasping achievements, we get so caught up and somehow lose sight of what is important. We built these beautiful lifelong connections with kins and friends. But then life hits us and we forget to reach out, forget to call, text, go to their place to just say hi. The connections that we built so zealously are being ignored. I always have a hard time taking out time for people apart from the ones I see daily. I get caught up in life and somehow lose sight of what is important. We forget. It's only human. We need to start making time for the people that matter, the people that may not be near to you by distance but are by heart. Whose prayers and love will always be with you. Continue building those bonds and never stop. If they put a smile on your face and make you happy trust me they are worth investing your time in them.

 

Being a planner is also a cause of anxiety. Since one wants to master all aspects of life which cannot happen overnight. Nothing happens overnight. Time brings everything together. You need to process it. We need to normalize FAILURES. Of course, no one wants to fail but if one has a setback then it is not the end of the world. It is also okay to find beauty in imperfection. Sometimes, things may not turn out the way we anticipated. In that process, don't be hard on yourselves Overthinking does not solve problems. Rather it takes away the energy to solve a problem. Believe in the timing of the ultimate planner (harder than it sounds, I know but possible).

 

Enlightening Insights

 

Develop self-love. Interface with your sentiments totally and don't drive them away, similar to a caring mother, work yourself out of it. Pour in some affection. Self-esteem kicks out envy and nervousness. Feel the deficiency of things. Here and there it's magnificent and unique and difficult and astounding to have things insufficiently. Cheer in the weaknesses. Say Alhamdulillah and more will come. Rundown down all you must be thankful for. You need to continue to remind yourself to value what you have and quit looking at yourself with others scholarly regular. It's constant exercise but one that will keep you happy in every circumstance. Rehearsing appreciation and being grateful for how things showed up for you helps push the inclination done for. Recollect your qualities. Let free the reins of control, leave things to destiny.

 

Everybody has an aim in life and desired goals. Learning the art of support and empathy will help you get over anxiety and jealousy. Count your blessings. Consider happiness the biggest achievement of life. Find beauty in the mundane routine of life, be it a clear sky or a delicious dinner cooked by mom or watching Netflix. Enjoy the joy of little things. One day you may look back and realize those were the things that mattered. One day you’ll be much empowered and stable, don’t let anxiety conquer the beauty inside you. We still have plenty of time. It's never too late to begin a new venture. Remember we all are here to play our part in our unique ways. I hope we all make it. 






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 Khausay is a dish that I love to cook and is well-received by my family. Although it may seem too long to follow but believe me, if you try my version, it's easy to cook with minimal ingredients possible.



Ingredients and Preparation:



  • Ø  Besan curry.

Green chili                            1

Gram flour                            1/2 cup

Yogurt                                    1 cup

Cumin powder                      1 tsp

Turmeric                                1tbsp

Water                                     3 cups

Put all ingredients in a blender and blend.

Take a pan, add the mixture with water until your required amount and cook on the low flame when the curry is thick add salt to taste. You may add a pinch of yellow food color.

 

  • Ø  Chicken gravy

 

Oil                                        1/2 cup

Onion                                   1 medium diced

Chicken (boneless)             600 gm

Ginger/garlic paste             1tbsp

Coriander powder              1tbsp

Cumin powder                   1tbsp

Salt                                     According to taste

Red chili powder                1tbsp

Turmeric                             1/2 tsp

Green chili                            1

Tomatoes                            3-4

Karahi masala                    1 Tbsp (optional if you want a bit spicier)

Blend tomatoes and green chili. In a pan,  heat oil. Then add onions. Fry till golden. Saute chicken and all ingredients one by one. Add 1 cup water and cover for cook until it is turned into a thick gravy.

 

  • Ø  Boil spaghetti

Layer spaghetti first. Put chicken gravy and toss curry over it as much as you like. Garnish it with

Slims / Turkey

Fried onions

Chat masala

Lemon juice

Boiled eggs and coriander (optional)

Serve and enjoy hot!


Khausay
 Khausay


KHAUSAY

by on July 26, 2021
 Khausay is a dish that I love to cook and is well-received by my family. Although it may seem too long to follow but believe me, if you try...


“Larka hai to engineer banega aur larki hai to doctor”.

 

This famous movie dialogue is an actual depiction of our mentality. These two career choices are not only bound to believe and followed. These are also regarded with uttermost respect in our society.

 

No, I’m against these careers at all. But I’m definitely against the forced culture. Every mindset is different and unique. It’s so unfair to expect it to behave in a mundane way. The natural inclination of a person is a reflection of his/her passion. Some excel at arts; others in mathematics etc. Giving your children the freedom of career choice will not only allow them to be prosperous but happy too.

 

Being a bright student, I was expected to be a doctor. In fact; I did intermediate with a premedical background. There, I was with classmates who were anxious aspirants of the medical future. On the other hand, I was more fascinated by teaching. Inspiring students to listen, motivating them to do good was exciting. I had eventually made up my mind to pursue teaching as a career. Since being a part of a typical goal-oriented family, so this decision of mine wasn’t well-received. By family, I mean close relatives of my parents. For them, being successful means you’re in either of those fields. Kudos to my parents, who stood by me and made my relatives understand that she’ll be successful. No matter what field she chooses. It was their confidence that resulted in an exuberant academic journey of mine. I aced the first two job interviews. I was appointed as a lecturer at a renowned college. Since teaching is my passion and it’s something that boosts my soul. I strive hard to be more empathetic. As a result, students are more connected. I’m being highly liked by my students (it’s a fact guys, not an exaggeration lol). Such a gesture is overwhelming and motivating for any teacher.


HOW TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR CAREER
Career choices



Over time, my students are also going through the same phase of career choices. Their anxiety and pensiveness reminisce my teenage life. So, at the end of the lesson, I make sure to motivate them and keep up their livelihood. I emphasize the point: ''Follow the career which is your passion. It is YOU who matters the most and it is YOU who needs to be happy with the choices.

Prioritize your happiness over the pressures of society. Your happiness will be the tool to deal with life positively. You will eventually make you and your family proud''. Of course, students’ value and appreciate my cents of thoughts.

In a frequently changing environment, having skills is a fundamental option to address the difficulties of regular day-to-day existence. The emotional changes in worldwide economies in the course of recent years have been coordinated with the change in innovation and these are altogether affecting on schooling, the working environment, and our home life. To adapt to the expanding speed and change of present-day life, we as individuals need skills to manage pressure and disappointment. The skilful people will have numerous new positions throughout their lives, with related pressing factors and the requirement for adaptability. Some of the skills that you are acquainted with and can start with amateur knowledge are:

 

Photography:

 

 It is a skill, and it's anything but a great deal of training and steadiness. Photographic artists produce pictures/pictures that recount a particular story, give an inward message or record an occasion. With the quick development of the publicizing and media areas, the work open doors in photography saw a gigantic lift.

 

Art:

Drawing is a creative skill as well as tool. So, this implies that whatever field you are in; you will undoubtedly require drawing abilities to make an image that says 1,000 words. Indeed, a great many people figure they can't sketch or paint so they need to pay somebody to do it. There are many plan- handle that need art. Do your research.

Truth be told, if you love art, you may attempt any of these fields as your future fields: Animator, Architect, Graphics creator, Game fashioner, Jewellery originator, Costume planner, Art instructor, and so forth.

 

Writing:

Composing is a fundamental component of practically every day today? Regardless of whether you are drafting a proposition for a significant possibility or teaming up by email, solid writing skills help associates and customers comprehend your thoughts. The thirst for composing can bear sweet fruit for you later on as it opens an entryway to the number of careers. For example, Sales letters, Fiction books, Non-fiction books, Emails, Advertorials, Facebook posts, blog posts, Instagram posts, etc.

 

Food:

The food and drink industry is full of flavor and just bursting with opportunities for people like anyone who are looking for a career that is well paid, rewarding, interesting, diverse, and exciting. Be it a home delivery business to ownership of a café.

 

Freelancing:

It is the most ideal path for students to bring in some additional pocket cash as it is kind with the hours so they don't need to stress over checking in for work or fulfilling odd hours for a time while keeping up classes and schoolwork. Students can undoubtedly discover gigs on the web and make money to take care of their understudy expenses or simply party it out!

So, to summarize everything, freelancing sure is advancing toward Pakistan and has effectively found the pattern which makes it a win as a profession here in Pakistan. I will write a separate blog post regarding resources that I have found helpful in learning to freelance.

 

The covid times presented life more vividly and made us think about those life careers which otherwise were being given least heed. On and all, life’s too short to live under pressure and expecting safe choices to be your saviors. Go for a career that doesn’t seem like a stressful job. Grab the choice which can be passionately pursued as well as enjoyed. Owning your journey and going through it bravely would be the most amazing you’ll ever do.

 

 

 

HOW TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR CAREER
Career choices



 

Welcome to the first blog post of a realist, who spreads kindness wherever she goes. I, Zainab, am a passionate teacher who is trying to make the most out of life. Had I been not a teacher, I would have been a blogger. But life happened and my urge declined somewhere amidst non-ending errands of daily life. So, this year, procrastination has finally been diminished.

Facts about me
Facts about me



To be acquainted, here are five random facts about me:

-Apart from writing, I’m an avid reader and binge-series watcher who’s always in search of something new to watch.

-An awkward confession of mine would be the obsession with star plus! Yes, my whole childhood was overjoyed watching the never-ending 'K' series. Even in my board exams, I never missed a single episode of PRATIGYA.

-Turkey is my dream destination. Like in my leisure time, I can imagine wandering somewhere along with the Bosphorus river relishing meals on a cruise.

-I love watching makeup tutorials but you will mostly see me not wearing it.

-In my family, I have been considered an achiever, probably because of the best grades I have always gotten so far. But with such titles come the expectations which are sometimes hard to maintain. So, trying not to be a perfectionist all the time.

In this blog, I will be pouring words straight out of my heart and will be sharing my life journey, some reviews as well as ramblings of mundane life. Also, I will mark this blog as a product of this quarantine that I have been wanting to pursue for years but finally got the time to make it happen. I’ll try my best to deliver.


Random facts about me
Random Fun-facts about me




Random Facts about Me

by on July 24, 2021
  Welcome to the first blog post of a realist, who spreads kindness wherever she goes. I, Zainab, am a passionate teacher who is trying to m...